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Disregard: Attitudes about Male Survivors

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  27 January 2025

Isaac Wilhelm*
Affiliation:
Department of Philosophy, National University of Singapore, Singapore

Abstract

In this article, I discuss some ways in which my experience, as a sexual assault survivor, has often been disregarded. It was disregarded when it occurred, by a crowd of people who watched. It has also been disregarded, however, in certain sorts of conversations—that occur within feminist communities—about sexual violence. The latter forms of disregard stem from the fact that I am male, and so do not fit many peoples’ preconceptions about survivors of sexual assault. After discussing these different forms of disregard and how they relate, I raise some difficult questions concerning whether, and how, conversations about sexual violence should make room for experiences like mine. In closing, I propose tentative, schematic answers to those questions.

Type
Musing
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Copyright © The Author(s), 2025. Published by Cambridge University Press on behalf of Hypatia, a Nonprofit Corporation

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